Sex talk

The mechanics of sex is evolutionary and hormone driven and can be mastered to any desired degree with study, practice and soft porn tutorials. The real issue is whether a healthy personal and cultural approach can be found to human sexuality and sexual behavior.

In our human history we have built into our world social constructs such as matriarchy/patriarchy, god and goddess symbols, women as slaves and property, mother/father roles, gender and power, gender equality, gender bending, homosexual lifestyle, marriage equality and other social readjustments that all have manifestations in sexual behavior.

But what if we look at human sexuality as driven by procreation, pleasure, power and love. What if we think of healthy human sexuality as achieving a balance of these four elements, which is personal for each individual yet viable as each individual acts as a sexual being in the community of others?

Every human being is unique in gender, genetics, biology and sexual orientation and in the way these elements are expressed in life behavior. Each human being will  function sexually based on a balance of love, power, procreation and pleasure, a balance that changes over a developing life.

What if these four aspects could be discussed in tandem as a means of developing healthy sexual behavior, and certainly in the context of person appropriate value systems? Approaching human sexuality this way puts the onus where it belongs—on the individual—to find a personal and responsible sexual life based on these four aspects and guided by whatever social, cultural and/or religious values that are helpful.

This approach removes the kind of hierarchy of sexual behavior that presents heterosexual behavior as normal and other behaviors as perverse. All sexual behavior then springs out of the balance of love, procreation, power and pleasure put into practice in the world.