Tuesday, August 15, 2017

I've said it before

I’ve said it before. Mature and genuine love is hard work. I know because I’ve so often failed at it. It must be strong and sure enough to break through stereotypes, personal comfort and prejudice. I don’t believe it’s instinctive. It must be taught and modeled. And this is where we so often fail.

Monday, August 14, 2017

Love is hard

News stories tell of calls for us to love rather than hate. But I wonder how many of those calls talk about how hard genuine love is. How much courage it takes. How big a shift in consciousness it requires to move past shallow, greeting-card love and accept both the sacrifices and the rewards of genuine, expansive love. Selfishness, fear and personal comfort can seduce us away from loving, but we have the great teachers to remind us how to love. Not in words, but in actions.

Hate fear impotence

We focus on the hate exhibited by these extremist groups. But they hate because they are afraid. And they are afraid because deep down they know they are impotent.

Sunday, August 13, 2017


Our dad is under hospice care--in that gray zone of mortality. For peace and comfort, drugs are dispensed regularly, with morphine leading the way. His shallow breathing is interrupted by congested gasps. Any flickers of coherence have since disappeared. His mind seems quiet. His body continues to do what it has done since birth, but with its life energy slowly draining away. We remember the vital man, reminisce and each hold in our thoughts the man he was to each of us. The hardest thing is watching him slowly become the figure in the coffin.

We all hope he is dreaming of our mother, whom he loved completely and whom he longed to join.

Monday, August 7, 2017


Who is the could-have-been self?

Who is the-yet-to-be self?

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Marketing love

I believe in love, as most of us do. But I look around the world and wonder if it has failed us. If Jesus, Martin Luther King, Ghandi and the Dalai Lama haven’t convinced us to embrace and work hard at love, then our only hope now is the machinery of mass marketing. It can sell us anything and make any want into a need. So why not turn it loose on love. Let’s dump the sex-as-love spiel, the pop song versions of adolescent love and the McDonald’s and Suburu versions of love and get at the real, responsible adult versions. Let’s get celebrities to stop trying to sell us shoes, watches, coffee makers and toe fungus medications and start selling us the real thing. We’ll start to want love because we know we need. Let’s just do it.

Friday, August 4, 2017

Jesus, Lord and CEO

In this age of mean-spirited, greedy, egotistical and unprincipled leaders, take a look at Jesus as a leader. He had a great mission statement. His group of founding members included men and women. He had the courage to stand up for what he believed. He grew his following to over 2 billion. He has a gorgeous and well-staffed corporate headquarters with branches all over the world. He has a universally recognized logo. He has more written about him than any other human being, including a rock opera. He delivers what people need at no cost and with no need for drones. His corporation has stood the test of time despite frequent misbehavior by his trustees.  He has recruited over time some exceptional workers. Amen.